Evidence-based explorations across community life, family development, and systems thinking. Thoughtful analysis to inform your ongoing research and understanding.
Practice wisdom, leadership, and professional development grounded in real-world children's services experience
Six interconnected essays exploring why professional attempts to change people fail, grounded in evolutionary biology and neuroscience
Through Angie Thokden's morning chaos, discover why changing people defies physics. From professional burnout to family resistance, explore the fundamental impossibility that shapes every helping relationship.
Why the brain's 12.5 watts can't overcome 3.5 billion years of evolution. Through mathematical principles and Kahneman's psychology, discover why resistance increases with pressure and cognitive architecture makes change neurologically implausible.
How evolution's complete 'nonsense' is pure biological genius. From the giraffe's five-metre nerve detour to human resistance patterns, discover why psychological responses developed as survival mechanisms, not design flaws.
The moral injury of promising impossible transformations. Following Angie through her professional crucifixion—stretched between political demands for change and evolutionary reality of resistance. How workers become unwilling participants in systematic harm.
What Darwin actually taught us about adaptation versus change. How influence works through environmental adjustment, not direct intervention. The biological approach to supporting human development without triggering resistance mechanisms.
Understanding the impasse between what we want and what's possible. How to work with rather than against human nature in family development and professional practice. A compassionate examination of why we keep trying to change others despite knowing it doesn't work.
Lieutenant Columbo's investigative approach demonstrates how apparent confusion can mask sophisticated analytical thinking. His methodology—building rapport, noticing inconsistencies, allowing space for revelation—offers a powerful model for professionals working with families.
Applying Berne's Transactional Analysis to UK child protection meetings, examining how structural features create predictable professional-family dynamics. Introduces the novel "system proximity typology" revealing why Glasgow's reform model works whilst most interventions maintain dysfunction.
From personal anecdotes to fabricated abuse disclosures, exploring the landscape of deception in safeguarding. When truth becomes transactional, how do professionals navigate between protection and manipulation?
Like an overburdened Victoria sponge collapsing under too many layers, our children's services fragment under impossible expectations. This structural analysis proposes parish-based integration where services meet families naturally, not through institutional gatekeeping.
When organisations ask "How are we doing?" they reveal they haven't been paying attention. Through Macnamara's research on organisational listening, discover why formal feedback requests signal absence rather than presence, and how the "sugar hit" of consultation damages trust.
Examining mob behaviour as evolutionary adaptation, from civil unrest looting to the Post Office Horizon scandal. How professional teams become mobs through Drama Triangle dynamics, projective identification, and the stroke economy that silences dissent.
Through personal experience in bereavement counselling training and decades of family work, explore how confusing wants with needs and shame with guilt creates cascading misunderstandings in therapeutic relationships and professional assessments—precisely when clarity matters most.
Like attempting to unknot a tangled ball of wool, some problems tighten when pulled directly whilst others require immediate action. Discover why CBT-type programmes can create more problems than they solve, and when patient engagement trumps quick fixes.
An imagined dialogue exploring how attachment theory's founder might view contemporary family life, social media's impact on child development, and the evolution of his insights through decades of research and application.
An academic exploration examining how early ego formation in adverse environments creates lasting patterns resistant to therapeutic intervention. Using the gingerbread metaphor and contemporary research, this bridges psychoanalytic theory with practical application for practitioners working with families.
An academic exploration of how psychoanalytic insight evolved into practical tools for understanding family support dynamics, tracing the journey from Freud's intrapsychic model through attachment theory to Berne's observable ego states. Demonstrates how Parent-Adult-Child frameworks illuminate transactional patterns frontline workers encounter daily.
Through drummer Nick D'Virgilio's methodical practice for a Genesis tour, discover profound insights about brain preparation for high-stakes performance. From job interviews to team collaboration, explore the difference between earned confidence and false bravado, and how genuine preparation enables collective excellence.
How childhood dynamics shape adult leadership through the contrasting paths of Christopher and Peter Hitchens. From a father's peace treaty to public intellectual opposition, discover how early family patterns influence professional styles and the value of constructive disagreement.
Child development, attachment, play, and family relationships—professional expertise made accessible
An imagined dialogue exploring how attachment theory's founder might view contemporary family life, social media's impact on child development, and the evolution of his insights through decades of research and application.
How anxiety, the limbic system, and the cortex drive our mistakes, honesty, and learning. Discover why our brain "switches over" in stressful situations and how to Feed the Solution, Starve the Problem.
How early play and relational experiences build the bridge from concrete to abstract thinking—and what happens when that bridge never fully forms. Explores implications for families, education, professional assessment, and intergenerational patterns.
Nature's university: how play shapes the brain, supports emotional regulation, and creates optimal conditions for memory, problem-solving, and wellbeing across a lifetime—from children's bedtime routines to workplace innovation.
Exploring how the Solihull Approach's Dance of Reciprocity helps us understand why endings matter in relationships, and how developing skills for transitions strengthens family bonds through the seven stages of emotional interaction.
Examining how early ego formation in adverse environments creates lasting patterns. Using the gingerbread metaphor and contemporary research, this bridges psychoanalytic theory with understanding infant development and family dynamics.
Understanding how psychoanalytic insight evolved into practical tools for family dynamics. Parent-Adult-Child ego states illuminate interaction patterns, stress dynamics, and transactional games in family life.
How confusing wants with needs and shame with guilt creates cascading misunderstandings in family relationships and parenting. Precision in these distinctions matters most when families face challenges and need clarity.
Like attempting to unknot a tangled ball of wool, some problems tighten when pulled directly whilst others require immediate action. Understanding when patient family engagement trumps CBT-type quick fixes in parenting and development.
Systems thinking, emergence, collective intelligence, and how complex systems actually work
Deep insights into how termite mounds, human societies, and the brain all demonstrate the same universal principle: intelligence emerges not from individual units, but from coordinated networks of specialised parts working together.
Applying the principles of collective intelligence to everyday life: how stress responses, transitions, and play work the same way in families, workplaces, and communities. Practical insights for leaders and parents.
When organisations ask "How are we doing?" they reveal they haven't been paying attention. Through Macnamara's research, discover why formal feedback requests signal absence rather than presence, and how consultation cycles create hope and betrayal at a biological level.
Examining mob behaviour as evolutionary adaptation, from civil unrest to the Post Office Horizon scandal. How professional teams become mobs through Drama Triangle dynamics, projective identification, and the stroke economy that silences dissent.
Applying Transactional Analysis to understand how structural features create predictable professional-family dynamics. Introduces the novel "system proximity typology" revealing why Glasgow's reform model works whilst most interventions maintain dysfunction.
Understanding the systemic impasse between what we want and what's possible. How to work with rather than against human nature in family development and professional practice. A compassionate examination of why we keep trying to change others.
A terrible film that won't stop spreading its hidden code. Through the lens of syntropy—order emerging from chaos—explore how Hackers (1995) accidentally prophesied cybersecurity's importance, encoded alternative counterculture identity, and continues finding new receivers thirty years later.
Like attempting to unknot a tangled ball of wool, some problems tighten when pulled directly whilst others require immediate action. A systems thinking approach to understanding why CBT-type programmes fail with complex versus adaptive problems.
Community life, society, culture, and engaged citizenship in everyday contexts
Comprehensive exploration of family life in a Suffolk market town
Serving as both practical resource and community celebration, this four-part guide examines character, safety, education, sports, arts, entertainment, shopping, and services—revealing how Bungay creates the conditions where families truly flourish.
Active living and outdoor opportunities in Bungay. From Outney Common to local sports clubs, discover how the town supports family recreation and community engagement through accessible facilities and natural spaces.
Arts, culture, and community events that make Bungay distinctive. From theatre and galleries to festivals and music, explore how this market town maintains cultural vitality that enriches family life.
Independent shops, local business, and community infrastructure. How Bungay's high street, market, and local services create the practical foundation for family life whilst maintaining character and sustainability.
From herbivores that kill rivals to online cancellation campaigns, a personal exploration of killing as a natural phenomenon humans inevitably participate in. These reflections examine the various positions we adopt to manage this disturbing reality, validating the difficulty itself rather than any particular stance.
How childhood dynamics shape adult leadership through the contrasting paths of Christopher and Peter Hitchens. From a father's peace treaty to public intellectual opposition, discover how early family patterns influence professional styles and the value of constructive disagreement.
A terrible film that won't stop spreading its hidden code. Through syntropy—order emerging from chaos—explore how Hackers (1995) accidentally prophesied cybersecurity's importance, encoded alternative identity, and continues finding new receivers. From hacker culture to queer coding, discover why this failed movie succeeded at something unmeasurable.
Like an overburdened Victoria sponge collapsing under too many layers, our children's services fragment under impossible expectations. This structural analysis proposes parish-based integration where services meet families naturally—education policy that citizens must navigate and understand.
How quiet confidence shapes social dynamics in professional settings. From boardroom peacocking to authentic presence, discover why internal confidence matters more than external displays of power and how genuine influence emerges from steadiness, not showmanship.
Like attempting to unknot a tangled ball of wool, some problems tighten when pulled directly whilst others require immediate action. Everyday problem-solving in life and society—understanding when CBT-type approaches help and when they harm.
From June incorporation through November 2025, this reflection documents YoungFamilyLife's first year: the pivot from planned courses to prolific content creation, transparent discussion of AI collaboration in professional writing, and the philosophical foundations of building an educational platform whilst maintaining full-time statutory work.
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